If you're gonna stir the pot - be ready to get some on you

We just got off the phone with someone dear to us.  We'd been told that this couple was having trouble in paradise.  So, Jay called and decided to "get up in their business" and ask some tough questions.  Now, in our American culture - we totally understand that that's not the most acceptable approach.  But, as the child of divorced parents, Jay says it's not gonna do anybody any good by staying silent.  If we do that - we'll just hear about their impending divorce after it's too late and we'll think - "that's too bad - another family to add to the statistics".  Our question is - why do we stay silent?  Why don't we go knock on their door and say "We are not going to sit back and watch this happen.  What can we do to help?  Let's walk this road together."  Why do we hide behind our troubles and not seek help?  Why are we so embarrassed to admit that we are less than perfect?  Why are we, as the church, not fighting this fight for the family head on?  Why are our churches filled with "smiling, plastic people" whose lives are crumbling apart outside the stained glass walls?  I'm just venting a bit........seems like there has to be something we can do.