My heart is full of emotions this morning as I write. I hope my words on this page can make sense - writing through your emotion is usually a dangerous thing. This weekend we attended our mandatory parenting class for the adoption. We laughed and thought how could we learn anything about parenting - boy, were we wrong! We learned so much and had a great time with the other families. It was amazing to see how adoption plays out in everyone's life. Some have thought about it for years and suddenly decided to take the plunge, some felt like it was the last straw after years of infertility, some felt drawn to certain countries due to their family heritage, some felt drawn to a child they had seen on a website or waiting child list......Whatever the case - the common bond of adoption links all these families together and the words we shared were all so encouraging.
After the class, I was retelling our story to someone who was talking about it, who isn't a big fan of adoption. Their comments were heartless and discouraging - a shock to my system after such an uplifting weekend. As I recounted the day we received an email on the little girl we were sponsoring through an orhpanage program ( you know - there are many programs out there like Compassion Int'l, World Vision, etc) telling us she was being adopted out and did we want her since we were her sponsors - I said, "How could we say 'no'?" The lady responded that she would have said 'no' and just said she'd keep sending the monthly money. What? Was she for real? Sadly, I have no doubts that she wasn't kidding.
The statistics on orphans our there are staggering - mind blowing!! If we proclaim Christ - then we must do something. I know that many send their money and this is a good thing - maybe that's the best you can do and more should at least do that! - but when faced with such a pointed question as "Do you want her?" - Jay and I firmly believe we must say "YES"! There is no amount of money that can replace the type of tangible love God has designed human parents to give to a child. Our money may pay for her food and shelter - but our home can provide her with love, the gospel, a place to cry, a place to learn, a place to grow, a place to be a part of a family. Why would we so purposefully rob her of all that when asked "Do you want her?"
I hope that our story can spark others into saying "Yes"! We have so many reasons we shouldn't be adoptiong (according to comfortable middle-class standards). We already have 5 children, our house isn't big enough, we don't make enough money, we aready have so many things we can't afford, adoption is so expensive, who will watch the kids so we can go to China for 2 weeks, etc, etc, etc. We've heard and thought through all the arguments. But, the bottom line is - will we say "Yes" - will you say "Yes"?
To read more about sponsoring a child - you can visit http://www.harmonyoutreach.org/